About Me
Adam Sheck, Psy.D
You Deserve To Have The BEST Relationship You Can Have. I’m Here to Help.
A little about me…
I didn’t start off as a Psychologist, Couples Counselor and Sex Therapist. Believe it or not, I began my career as an Engineer! To be fair, my final years in technology were as a ‘Hardness’ Engineer, so I could say there was a connection. Just kidding … or am I?
My sense of humor is part of my skill set. The work is so very, very serious, we must laugh at ourselves when possible to break the tension.
To be honest, relationship coaching is about detective work. What is happening? Why is it happening? How can we change the system? Engineering is the same thing, simply using more left brain activity.
I give you the best of both worlds for unique solutions: right-brained Psychologist with left-brained Engineer, the most effective integration.
How did I get from there to here?
Life has a sense of humor, perhaps an ironic one, yet a sense of humor. It started with a bad marriage! Too funny for a Couples Counselor, yes?
We went into marriage counseling together. I stayed. She didn’t. The marriage ended. The silver lining was that I stayed in counseling and really began to know myself. I loved psychotherapy so much that I went back to school earn my Doctorate degree and become a Clinical Psychologist.
I started working with clients and launched my Private Practice in 1998. I jumped in and began marketing and building my Practice, back when Yellow Page ads were the way to go. Anybody remember Phone Books?
My work has evolved over time. Over the last ten years or so, more and more singles, couples and moresomes have been seeking out my support in working through relationship issues in the area of Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) and Polyamory. Over half of my clients are involved or want to be involved in this.
And while I have trained in most of the major couples theories including Imago (certified), PACT (Psychobiological Approach To Couples Therapy) Level 2, Gottman Level 1, and an EFT (Emotional Focused Couples Therapy) Externship, none of them have an underlying theory or approach to Consensual Non-Monogamy or Polyamory!!!
My work over the years has been a lot of trial and error and ‘on the job training’ in this specialty. Fortunately, CNM is becoming more studied and I mutually consult with some of my more skilled colleagues on the latest and greatest methods. There have been great strides made in the last 2 or 3 years.
My Approach & Philosophy
I begin my work by meeting clients ‘where they are now’ and provide the expertise and support that allows them to have what they want as quickly as possible.
I focus on developing strategies that will allow clients to make changes now that will have maximum leverage in creating change.
Many times removing blocks to having the relationship we want involves understanding our ‘relationship blueprint’ the unconscious template that was imprinted upon us all from our childhood and early experiences.
My philosophy is not to dwell on the past and ruminate on victimhood. There is no value in re-triggering old wounds and causing pain for pain’s sake. However, the past is not to be avoided, denied or ignored. It will often show up in the present through interactions with our partners.
Moving back into present time and facing present issues skillfully is our main work together. Only by being in the present moment with yourself and your relationships will you achieve what you wish to achieve.
I like to laugh. The work is so serious, that we can’t take it seriously all the time. I will tease you, make fun of your patterns and dynamics (in a kind, compassionate way) and do my best to lighten the sessions up to balance out the heaviness that may surface. I’m not saying that we’ll end every session smiling, yet we’ll probably smile a little bit someplace in there.
I work with Singles, Couples (and Moresomes) on relationship issues. In general I will work with all of the parties involved when we begin our work. As appropriate I may see individuals and dyads for ‘one off’ sessions as well, to do work that we can bring back into the ‘full’ sessions.
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(310)-968-1526
Address
6535 Wilshire Blvd. #103, Los Angeles, CA 90048